Life’s Biggest Questions. Answered By You. Do You 10Q?

Ready to reflect: With just 11 months until I turn 30 (read: original planned retirement date) I thought it would be a great idea to spend some time reflecting on my past, present and future. And then I received the email reminder from 10Q – coincidence? I think not. 10 days, 10 questions.

What is 10Q?

Every year between the Jewish holidays of Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur there is a 10 day period of reflection – an opportunity to look at your past, present and future. 10Q makes this digital and social.


  • For ten days 10Q sends you a question a day to answer.
  • Answers are entered in your own secret online 10Q space.
  • And then saved to the secure online 10Q vault for safekeeping.
  • After the ten day period the vault is locked.
  • One year later, the vault opens and your answers land back in your email inbox.
  • You can also choose to share your answers anonymously with other 10Q users.
  • And can also scroll through other people’s answers.

Why 10Q?

So let’s start by saying that I am not Jewish (but my boyfriend is and so are many of my friends). I am not even religious. But this really has very little to do with the Jewish religion. This is about you. The intended audience of your 10Q – you in one year’s time.

10Q: Reflect. React. Renew. 

Life’s Biggest Questions. Answered By You.

We spend so much time rushing around, chasing our dreams (or tails), wishing our lives away. Surely it is good to stop every now and then and just reflect. To think about the past and maybe realise how far we have come. To acknowledge where we are now without judgement. And to plan for a future that fulfils us.

10Q Starts 24 September 2014

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Some Example Q&A’s from 10Q 2013

Those 10Q users who opted in to share their answers last year also allow for some reflection – we are all human and are all dealing with our own insecurities and hardships. Read some of my favourite answers from last year below or read them all here.

Q01: Describe a significant experience that has happened in the past year. How did it affect you? Are you grateful? Relieved? Resentful? Inspired?

This past winter, I saw real loss in someone else’s eyes for the first time. I wasn’t close friends with this person, and was therefore surprised and confused for months about why this affected me so deeply. I think in the past few weeks, I’ve figured out the “why” a little bit better, and either way, I feel like this experience has certainly changed me as person. This also helped me figure out a little better (and certainly think about more!) what role the community or the people “on the auxiliary” should play in someone’s time of need.

Q02: Is there something that you wish you had done differently this past year? Alternatively, is there something you’re especially proud of from this past year?

I always wish I can find a way to gain control over my own life. I wish I was more mindful, even though I believe I’ve made leaps and bounds since last year, and its only in the recent months that I’ve made significant improvements. I am proud of these strides I’ve made. I am learning to give less of a shit.

Q03: Think about a major milestone that happened with your family this past year. How has this affected you?

My grandmother died in June. As her body, and eventually her mind, deteriorated, so did her quality of life, and it got harder and harder for her and for us. I am so glad that I never let it get too hard for me. I am glad that I had moved back to the area and was there visiting every few weeks. I am glad that I was there with her, even when it was hard.

Q04: Describe an event in the world that has impacted you this year. How? Why?

There have been so many it is hard to pick just one. Natural disasters; man-made disaster (oil companies, gas companies) and wars. Except for the natural disasters, greed seems to be the driving force behind the others. When will politicians truly work for the good of all instead of the pockets of the few?

Q05: Have you had any particularly spiritual experiences this past year? How has this experience affected you? “Spiritual” can be broadly defined to include secular spiritual experiences: artistic, cultural, and so forth.

Turning 30 was a spiritual moment. I turned 30 on day 4 of the Inca trail trek on the day we reached Macchu Picchu. It was my mountain top moment where I realised that I had accomplished something that I had set out to do. This whole trip travelling by myself is one big spiritual moment where I am learning so many things about myself and constantly challenging myself and stepping outside of my comfort zones. The year of I as i like to call this year away is my spiritual coming of age journey.

Q06: Describe one thing you’d like to achieve by this time next year. Why is this important to you?

I’d like to get my life back in order. I feel as if I’ve lost my true self in the last 5 years and hardly recognize this person I’ve become. As a result, I will be happier. My family will also benefit and so will my friends. I will be more confident and fulfilled too. This will require a lot of work on my part and with my health issues… this is what makes it more difficult, but something has to happen.. I feel myself starting to drown. I want to lose the 20lbs I’ve gained back, get into a regular exercise routine, reset my circadian rhythm to a more “normal” place! or something more healthy then its at now! lol Get my life more organized, in all areas-inside and out and after working out most of my kinks, start fixing the ones that have occurred in my relationships because of my lack of time and life management. *breath*

Q07: How would you like to improve yourself and your life next year? Is there a piece of advice or counsel you received in the past year that could guide you?

I would like to appreciate myself more and criticize myself less. Self-criticism is a problem that creates other problems out of thin air.

Q08: Is there something (a person, a cause, an idea) that you want to investigate more fully in 2014?

I want to be a more well-read and educated person. Read the newspaper more. Understand issues. Spend Saturday afternoon in the park with a good book. I’d like to investigate life as I know it, turn all of my ideals on their head, and reinvent my theology and outlook on humanity for the better.

Q09: What is a fear that you have and how has it limited you? How do you plan on letting it go or overcoming it in the coming year?

I have a fear of being alone forever. As I get older and more and more people find their spouse, I get more and more worried I won’t find me. I do believe I will eventually, but it feels so hard. In the coming year, I will let it go by enjoying what I do have rather than harping on what I don’t. By building a life I want to share with someone rather than looking for someone to fill the voids in my life. By being the best version of myself and therefore attracting people that want to be with me. I also have a fear of not being financially responsible. I will let it go in the coming year by spending consciously (both for my wallet and the world).

Q10: When September 2014 rolls around and you receive your answers to your 10Q questions, how do you think you’ll feel? What do you think/hope might be different about your life and where you’re at as a result of thinking about and answering these questions?

I think I’ll feel a profound sense of nostalgia. I’ll be in the “Real World” for the first time, and I feel like these questions will give me a good, if haunting, perspective on how differently I’ll perceive the world then vs. when I was in college. I just hope I’m happy with the changes.


10Q Starts 24 September 2014

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